If I asked you today “Do you absolutely love your life?” how would you respond?
Would you politely say “Yes” (and mean it to some degree) but inside silently scream “No” but not sure why?
While most of us are grateful for our lives we secretly yearn for more only we aren’t sure what “more” is.
Many of us attempt to fill the void of “more” with stuff, seek our worth in a relationship, attach our self esteem to the number on the scale, or drown our insecurities in food yet the void remains.
Once I was that woman. Yes, I appreciated my life but deep within I longed for more. In order to find out what “more” was I began a quest to find the answer. And here it is what I learned.
In order to live a life you love you must build it around what you value and enjoy most and LET GO of everything else.
Yes it is that simple.
Proverbs 14:1 tells us “The wise woman builds her house . . .” Your life and all it contains (your self-worth, value, happiness, achievements, etc) is your responsibility and not that of others.
Because I learn best by example I began to seek out people who seemingly adored their lives (even during hard times) and quickly saw a pattern emerge. Each of them centered their lives around what they valued and enjoyed.
Of course the best example is Christ and throughout the gospels we see what he valued most emerge.
He valued servitude and was often found in the crowds healing the sick. Sharing his knowledge of His Father was of utmost importance so he sought places in which to teach the masses whether it was a boat, a mountain top or a temple.
Cultivating meaningful friendships brought him joy so he developed deep bonds with his three closest friends – Peter, James and John. Both connection and solitude were important so he purposely created moments in which to break bread with others and enjoy quiet moments alone with his Father.
I also looked at others for examples.
My mom values servitude so whether she is teaching the Word, visiting the elderly or helping a neighbor, her life centers around helping others.
My sister Cindy values family and spends her precious free time connecting with then whether over the phone or in person.
My friend Machelle values beauty and nature and is happiest elbow deep in God’s earth transforming an ordinary clay clay pot into a mini garden bursting with beauty. It is no surprise that she is sought by many for advice when Spring rolls around.
My granddaughter Layla finds joy in creating and is happiest with a blank canvas, a bin of art supplies and nowhere to be.
If you aren’t sure what you deeply love begin to pay close attention to your daily life along with those around you and you too will see values and joy-activities emerge.
And over the last year I did exactly that. Determined to find what I loved and letting go of everything else that did not serve me became my focus.
Inspiring others through writing brings me incredible joy so I started a blog and to further connect with likeminded women I sought out speaking opportunities and also formed this FB page.
Simplicity is a core value so I regularly purge, walk away from and let go of the unnecessary or unhealthy as well as the energy and time drainers including possessions and people.
Creating and encouraging brings me joy so I am now developing programs and workshops to encourage women to create a life they love and will begin offering those soon.
Quiet moments of solitude spent with the Lord fill me with amazing joy and that time is now on of my few non-negotiables.
So I ask you. What brings you joy? What activities cause you to lose track of time? How would you spend your perfect day? What or who inspires, energizes and challenges you to step up your game? Who do you spend time with that leaves you emotionally and physically drained? What are you doing when you feel most at peace? What or who do you need to let go of in order to live a live you love?
It may take a little time to began to see answers to these questions emerge but once you do you can then begin to see what is essential in creating a life you love.
Please understand that while I love my life, it is not all unicorns and rainbows.
I have bad days, cry my share of tears, let my emotions run roughshod over me, endure rejection, struggle with feeling “not enough” and question my sanity but I have learned not to let those moments define WHO I am or demand control of my life.
In order for you to love your life you must begin to build it around what you value and gives you the greatest amount of joy and all else must move to the periphery.
No it isn’t easy and yes it takes time but the reward is worth the risk I assure you.
Seek the answers to questions like those above and listen closely to the woman within because she knows what she values and what brings her joy – she only needs you take the time to listen amidst the “busyness” of life.
Now is the time! Today is the day!
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