Her words left a gaping wound in your heart. His actions rocked your confidence and self-worth.
Whether they meant to or not doesn’t matter. Feelings of negative emotions overwhelm you from behavior you never expected.
Yes, even with our countless blessings, devastating events happen that threaten to destroy us, jeopardizing our relationships, health, jobs, emotional stability and spiritual and personal growth.
No one is immune to hurt and no one’s life is perfect now matter what their social feeds suggest.
Please remember as you scroll through Facebook and Instagram that you are seeing others’ highlight reels not their lowest life moments.
My ultimate goal since starting Elevate has always been to communicate with authenticity and transparency exactly who I am – my life experiences, my highs and lows, successes and failures, mistakes and shortcomings!
So you should probably know that in my own journey I often make many missteps, battle anger and frustration, have emotional hissy fits and spiritual meltdowns.
Unfortunately I don’t always respond in ways I am proud of, spiritually or verbally. It is just a fact I want to make clear.
But what I have learned is it’s absolutely true that “What you focus on grows.”
And therein lies the difference between living a life of joy and one of misery.
Have you ever noticed when your thoughts are focused on others’ hurtful words or behavior that resentment, anger and unforgiveness creep in and ultimately ruin an otherwise perfectly good day sucking the joy right out of living?
Why? Because what we focus on grows.
John 10:10 says “The thief comes to steal, kill and destroy.”
That is what eventually happens when our thoughts are consumed with events that irritate, wound or anger us.
Those negative, life-depleting thoughts running at lightening speed through our minds feed the emotional beasts of resentment and bitterness and they, like anything fed, will eventually grow and overpower us killing our joy, stealing our peace and destroying our future.
Solomon said “As a man thinketh, so is he.” Prov. 23:7.
Yes, we eventually become what we think and what we think about we bring about. Our thoughts are just that powerful!
We have the free-will to choose which thoughts we dwell on or dismiss.
Whether they are life-nourishing or life-draining, the amount of headspace we allow them to take up is our choice.
Deut 30:19 says in part “I have set before you life and death . . . now choose life.” And Peter said “ . . . a man is a slave to whatever has mastered him .” 2 Pet 2:19
Will we begin today establishing ourselves as masters of our thoughts or will we remain in servitude to them even at the cost of our joy and happiness?
Will our thoughts continue feeding the beasts of anger, resentment, bitterness, unforgiveness, jealousy or envy or will we begin starving them until they are lifeless and no longer dominate and control us?
Please don’t feed the beasts!