Who do you think you are?
Has anyone ever asked you that? Have you ever asked yourself that?
We know creating a beautiful life begins with a beautiful mind established on the foundation of Truth and shedding old belief patterns (see Session 2).
Fabulous clothing designer Diane Von Furstenberg said “I didn’t always know what I wanted to do but I always knew the kind of woman I wanted to be.”
Until reading that I had never considered who I wanted to be.
Of course I wanted to excel in my roles as a daughter, sister, wife, aunt, grandmother etc. but who did I want to be?
And, was who I wanted to be and who I thought I was the same woman?
Not even close.
That quote and these questions forever altered my life.
Our foundational scripture for this series reminds us “As a man thinketh so is he.” (Prov 23:7)
Is the woman you want to be and the woman you think you are at this moment the same?
We will always become who we think we are and until those thoughts change nothing will change.
How would you complete this sentence? If I thought I was _____ then I would _____.
I knew I wanted to be a confident woman yet always thought I lacked confidence so it is no surprise I was not confident, not even a little.
Because I thought I wasn’t confident accompanied by my fear of rejection I said no to life-changing opportunities and was robbed of incredible adventures and experiences.
However, after reading that quote, I wrote down in my journal the kind of woman I wanted to be beginning with “confident.”
I then wrote “If I thought I was confident, I would then. . .” and began writing furiously all I would do if I truly believed I was confident.
I would start the blog I had been dreaming about, face my fears of rejection and pursue my love of speaking, join a small group without knowing anyone, volunteer, take risks, step out of my comfort zone, and the list went on.
Next I wrote “If I thought I was healthy and fit, I would commit to exercising consistently, sign up for and complete a half marathon, ban the word “diet” from my vocabulary, cultivate a dining lifestyle of life-giving foods with the occasional sweet, and stop critiquing and criticizing my body and begin complimenting, loving and appreciating her.”
And my list went on.
I wanted to be “cultured,” “fun,” “generous,” “well-travelled,” “inspiring” and “grateful.” “Joyful,” “authentic,” “elegant,” “adventurous” and “kind” all found their way onto my list and into my thoughts.
How would that woman think and act?
Learning to think like the woman I wanted to be led to actions that resulted in enormous positive changes in my life.
You are reading this blog today because I changed my thoughts on confidence.
Believe me, I am still a work in progress and am constantly monitoring my mindset.
I know first hand the damage toxic, negative, self-fulfilling thoughts will do – the dreams they will steal, relationships they will destroy and the life they will take.
John said “The thief comes only to steal, kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it more abundantly.” (10:10)
How does the thief (Satan) accomplish this?
Through our thoughts because he knows they dictate our feelings which determines our actions.
If he can stop us in our minds, the rest is easy.
But Christ came that we may have life in abundance and that also begins in our minds.
What is going on in our minds?
Are we constantly complaining about what we lack or are we so grateful for the abundance we do have?
Are we telling ourselves and others we “can’t afford it,” “lack the time,””will never lose the weight or get in shape,” etc?
The abundant mindset vs the scarcity mindset is topic worthy of its own post because of its self-fulfilling, life-altering effects.
Whatever our minds focus on grows! I simply cannot emphasize it enough.
As we learned in the beginning – MINDSET IS EVERYTHING!
So I ask you again. Who do you think you are?