It’s Complicated

Other than perhaps quantum physics, relationships are by far the most complicated things ever.  

All of them. Friends, in-laws, out-laws, dating, co-workers, boss/employee, exes, currents, online, offline, parental, marital, they are complicated. 

Relationships can tear a family apart or be the glue that holds them together during tough times.  They can make a job a joy or a misery, be a source of peace or despair and this is nothing new. 

Cain killed his brother Abel.  Judas betrayed Christ, Rachel and Leah were sisters but not friends and Rebecca didn’t care for her son Esau’s wives.  

You see, it’s not just our bodies and minds that often need healing but our relationships too. 

Relationships can be bruised or severed with cruel words spoken in a moment of anger, behavior that leaves one party heartbroken, betrayal that kills trust, unmet expectations and repeated disappointment. 

It’s sad to hear stories of people dying estranged from loves ones over events that happened years ago.

It’s so much easier to criticize, complain, judge and talk about someone that to talk with them about the issues that have caused the relationship to go south. 

Seldom is it just one party’s fault in the demise of the relationship. It happens but not often. Two are tangoing as long as the relationship is in play. 

Relationships can contract diseases just like the body and mind. And like the body and mind, they too can be healed.

How many of us are suffering more from wounds inflicted from broken relationships than physical ailments?  

Some of our relationships are currently on life support in need of a supernatural healing if they are going to survive.

Life has taught me this the hard way.

Only when I ask God to help me love that person even at their worst (as He loves me at mine) does my healing begin.

Healing requires I own my part in the issues, extend a lot of grace and forgive even when they don’t apologize or feel remorseful.  

Yes. I want to stay mad but every time I do Christ gently reminds me “if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. Matt 6;14 – 15.  

“For just as you judge and criticize and condemn others, you will be judged and criticized and condemned and in accordance with the measure you [use to] deal out to others, it will be dealt out again to you. “Matt 7:2 (AMPC).  

That’s about as clear as it gets.

Relationships will aways be complicated because we are all complicated creatures.  

Some relationships may need to remain in our past. But if we are still toting unhealed wounds from them, then they are still very much present making us sick emotionally and maybe even physically. 

Ulcers, anxiety, anger, headaches, insomnia, high blood pressure and resentment are all symptoms of unresolved infections from relationships. 

I’ve experienced these symptoms long after parting ways with people because while the relationship was over my wounds weren’t.

You know the relationships in your life that need healing as well as old ones you need healing from.

The Psalmist writes “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”  Ps 147:3   

What I know for sure is God stands ready to heal your relationships and you.  Thankfully His clinic is open 24/7 with no appointment necessary and all walk-ins in are welcome.

Let’s enter in and receive healing in our relationships or from the complications of them.

Let’s either attempt reconciliation and address the issues that are creating the relational tensions or begin to take the necessary steps to move past the leftover pain of an old relationship.

Life is too short to suffer when healing is available to us all.

Sandra Hubbard 

(5) Comments

  1. I’m so glad it resonated with you 😊😊

  2. Anonymous says:

    Thank you🙏.perfect message for me today.

  3. Thank you 🙏🏻

  4. sherrye lacour says:

    Great message!

  5. Machelle Bernheim says:

    Amen, sister!!!

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